First of all Lakehavasu,
The disconnections are not due to the router settings unless a person is lossing all interent also. Basically the other post you made about finding a patch if you look there at the damage that flooders can do to a person while on primary and pie then you may see why you cant stay connected well.
As for uploads and downloads, searches etc those will be more likely affected by port settings.
Since your actually having issues like this I would highly suggest the patch we offer here that blocks and filters for you. I think you'll find running primary on it much more stable and we can then just deal with any port issues you have.