im trying to figure this out, i had to update to win xp sp3 when my win me crashed, and trying to figure this stuff out, i disabled the windows firewall, and allowed the ports i need thru it for if it cut on for some reason. i use zone alarm, and i set it to allow the same ports, now i can send/receive messages, and receive files, but cant connect anyone so they can get mine. i even tried turning off zone alarm & pg2 and still no luck, tried the ports mx comes set for, and 1352 & 4747. hope someone here can help. i tried primary & secondary connections still couldnt connect