well I was able to get shareguard into the room one time, after that still no luck. I think this has helped make the decission for me to stay with a server i know, for now.
seemes like if i get past the fact that mine would attempt to go in after i shut winmx down, that my problem is partially due to having limited number of tcp connections ope, 10 by microsofts judgement is plenty at one time. There is a tool that lets the user fix this problem, i think on this forum as well. but with all that and then thinking well my wcs server never had that problem, and wcs uses "extra bandwith" i think that i am staying with it for now due to it meets the needs of my room and all our rooms issues.
Mind you i am not saying that the other servers are bad, but so far they will not do what we at Unlimited Movies and Music need and want.
Thanks for all the help i received trying to get things sorted out. May God bless all those who have good intentions and a willingness to help in their hearts.