Thanks reef! i didnt think anyone was gonna help me. its so sweet of you to offer. OK, so im not super great with laptops and this whole configuration thing, but im willing to like change software if i have to.
I went ahead and uninstalled the version that i had before and went with the 3.54 vista installer. I went through the whole process over again and it seems like i cant get the ports to listen right. i don't know what im doing wrong!
OK so this i know. Im own a dell and it runs a Vista 64-bit, i took off the Norton that was preinstalled and went with avg security suite 8.0 because i thought it would be the easiest program to work with because i read a few of the posts and it just seemed like avg was the easiest to configure...which it turns out to not be. I also have the vista security off, so i hope that's a good thing. As for connections...i have both a cable connection through a modem and i have wifi also. The cable modem is a webstar and i don't use it much, but if i have to its not hard to connect in.
Like i said before, im willing to go off any recommendations that you have as far as software i should use that works with the vista 64-bit.
so again, any help would be much appreciated!