Its not stupid at all ..
You can see how many primary and secondary connection you are holding at the top of your screen.
P= primarys S= secondaries spm= Searches per minute that travel through.
The only way to know for sure who is connected to you is to use special programs called TCP viewers.. we have some of these on the Goodies page...
The main concern for what secondaries you have right now are the flooders that are trying to steal your bandwidth to flood the fake lists through you. Best thing there is to either be using our WS2_32.dll or Sherwood
to put a stop to them.
hope that helps ya some ..